What Are Your Money Issues? Part 1 Recap

  In “What Are Your Money Issues? Part 1″ I discussed how we as individuals relate to money and many of our money beliefs and money blocks were formed early in life. This is a common bond the majority of us share.

 In this installment of this article I will share with you my personal story and how it affected me in my relationship with money.

My Story and Money Issue Origins

  The easiest way for me to explain how our relationship with money is influenced by outside sources and circumstances is to give you an insight to my story, my background.

  I was born in Poland in the 1960′s and both my mom and dad  grew up on small farms near each other. They worked very long hours everyday to provide for their families and there was little time for leisure and recreation. They grew and raised everything they needed to survive on their farms and what was left over they sold to earn money for the things they needed. Money was scarce and there wasn’t much left over.

  Neither my mom nor dad made it past the sixth grade and when they were between the ages of 12-14, WWII was raging literally in their back yard. Their families were forced to live in root cellars while the German soldiers turned their homes into headquarters, while consuming everything their farms had to offer. Everything they had was taken away from them in an instant while they were living in fear. When the soldiers left everything they owned was gone or destroyed.

 Our Money Boat Sets Sail

  Let’s fast forward to 1965……

I arrive in the United States with my mom and dad, along with my older brother and two older sisters. Yes, this picture is actually of my family and no, we are not “off the boat.” Actually we were just waiting to get on!

  Many years would pass from that day we arrived and you would hear my dad tell the same story over and over, how he brought his family here with $3.00 to his name and how hard he had to work to make ends meet. Both my mom and dad worked very hard for their money here in the U.S.- working in sweatshops and factories and as we were growing up they made sure they reminded my siblings and me how hard they had to work to support us. As a young boy there was was much guilt associated with asking my mom and dad for money. I knew every time I asked I would hear the same routine over and over such as “money doesn’t grow on trees,” “do you know how hard I had to work for this?” “When are you going to start making some money?” Any of these sound familiar?

 This guilt was a part of my life for many years even after I moved out of my mom and dad’s home and started a family of my own. I remember vowing never to make my children feel any guilt over money and so I did the exact opposite of my mom and dad and gave them everything they wanted. I knew after awhile this might not have been the best approach either, and what surprised me even more was that my issue with money ran deeper than just rebellion against the guilt I felt about money as a child.

  The assessment I took gave me an insight about money I have never been able to see before and in the next and final part of this article I will discuss that and what it means to me.

Slawek Polinski

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