Life Is Changing, Are You Changing With It?

  One of the valuable life lessons I discovered through 28 years of marriage and 25 years of parenting is that life is constantly changing and the people in your life are constantly changing. Do you fight these changes or do you accept and nurture them? Fighting change is the same as fighting growth. In our 28 years together I can say that I have been married to at least six different versions of my wife and I’m sure she feels the same way about her life with me. I am very fortunate to be part of her evolution as a woman and individual.

 

 Change Is Not Always Easy

  Change brings uncertainty and uncertainty strikes fear in many. Keep in mind, through all the changes you have moved though, no matter how difficult they were, you have made it out on the other side just fine. You were capable of handling change then ( give yourself credit ) and you are just as capable now.

  So take a deep breath and acknowledge that this is just a process of life and you now embrace it fully. You are ready to change with life and you will not allow yourself to be stuck in life.

Slawek Polinski

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Is Your Life a Familiar Routine?

Many people live lives that are very predictable,they practically do the same thing day-in and day-out and they can perform these tasks without even giving them much thought. It is almost as if their life is on auto-pilot or cruise control. They basically can go through their daily life with their eyes closed. Though this might seem to be convenient, it carries many dangers.

 Don’t Get In a Rut

 Is your life in a rut? Have you lost your passion for living? Do you know what your passions are any more?

 These are the dangers associated with living a life of routine. When you go through your life with your eyes closed you miss out on all the blessings and opportunities that come your way. You will miss your opportunities in life because you are incapable of seeing them.

Live an Inspired Life

  It is time to shake things up a bit and break the same boring daily routine. Life is not meant to be a spectator sport, it is meant to be participated in. You cannot be something in life if you do not do something in life. Happiness in life comes from taking action, in your life and in the lives of others.

Go out and Live!

Slawek Polinski

The International Man of Action

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 Would You Like To Add An Extra Day To Your Week?

  I have heard many people say that if they only had an extra day in their week, they would find the motivation to make positive changes in their lives. They are so busy that they just don’t have any time for themselves. If they only had an extra day they would be able to make the changes necessary to transform their lives for the better.

Have you ever heard this? Have you said this?

 Chances are you have plenty of time, it is just that you don’t have the proper control of your time. We live in a great technological era with with so many electrical devices that make our lives very convenient and at the same time rob us of our time without being aware of  it. By being conscious of how you spend ( priority time scheduling) your time to minimize distractions such as with email, phone, social media and television you will be surprised at how much time you can save in your day, your week.

  Take control and take your time – Take control of your life!

Slawek Polinski
Men OF Action

 Are You Willing To Change Your Life?

  I talk with many people that project a similar message which is:

 ”I am unhappy in my life right now, I need to change things.”

 When I discuss with them the things they are unhappy with and then give them suggestions for action steps they can take to change things around for themselves so they can begin to transform their lives, many times what I hear in response are excuses for why they can’t. The majority of the excuses I hear revolve around time, money or family and the real reason for these excuses is fear.

Why Would Anyone Fear Positive Change?

 The truth is most people are afraid of any change even if it is for the better. Their life might be miserable and at the same time it is familiar, they know what to expect everyday,… no surprises. A common example is the spouse who is in an abusive or unhealthy relationship and yet refuses to leave. They might be living a life of hell and it is a familiar hell and they know they have handled it in the past so they continue on in their familiar, painful life. A change might be better for them but what if…? The fear of the unknown always stops them.

You Have To Take That First Step To Change

  We have been conditioned from an early age that failure is bad and we get punished for failing. What happens as a result is we discover very early that if we avoid doing things we are unfamiliar with, we avoid failure and most importantly, we avoid punishment. It is better not to try than to be punished.

  This is a mindset that can be changed and it doesn’t have to be scary. First, you need to throw out the idea that failure is bad. As a matter of fact you shouldn’t even refer to it as failure, just feedback to achieve your desired results. Sometimes you have to figure out how not to do something in order to discover how to do it well. Second, it is important that you take even small steps daily to expand your comfort zone. The more you attempt the small challenges in your life or small opportunities to enhance your life, the more comfortable you will become in doing so. That uneasy feeling in your stomach will change from fear to excitement as you venture on your next adventure.

 Living the life you were meant to live starts with small steps and only you can take that first step. How bad do you want life of fulfillment?

Slawek Polinski

“Men of Action”

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Let The People In your Life Know They Are Special

    Take a little extra time this Valentine’s Day( or any holiday) to let the loved one’s in your life know how important they are to you. When you go out and buy them a greeting card,take the time to  personalize it by writing your thoughts and feelings from your heart inside the card. This will mean so much more than just putting your signature below some pre-written words in the card. Better yet, buy a card that is blank inside or even make your own card! You don’t have to worry about coming up with some clever rhymes just tell them what is in your heart. You will be surprised at the response you get!

Happy Valentine’s Day

Slawek Polinski

Men of Action

Goal Setting Made Simple

   Do you find yourself falling short of your goals? Here is a story about three 12 year old boys and their determination and creativity in reaching their goal. As adults we often tend to make things more complicated then they have to be while children often can see the simple solutions to their challenges.

Slawek Polinski
Men Of Action

How Are Your life’s Resolutions Going?

  Well, we are three weeks into the year of 2010, so how are your New Year’s Resolutions going? Have you given up on them already? No worries, just start some new ones and get going. Though many people set new goals for themselves at the beginning of the year, that is not something that is or should be etched in stone. You should always be taking a look at your life and looking for ways to mix things up and break the boring daily routine many of us fall into. I know how easy it is to do the same thing over and over every day and let’s face it, that type of living requires little or no thought, as a matter of fact you could probably do it in your sleep. Hmmmmm, are we sleep walking through life?

I Feel A Change Coming In My Life

  After years and years of sleepwalking through life, you know, every day going to work, coming home and eating some dinner and then spending some quality time in front of the TV set, many men (women too), lose their passion for living. That doesn’t mean they do not love their family, it just means they have lost that fire in their heart. For many men this is a crisis point in their lives because for so many years they have defined themselves around their jobs and the work they do and then one day they wake up and don’t know who they are or what their passion is. They feel empty. Some men freak out at this point and make drastic changes in their lives hoping to find that drive again and many times this ends up being very painful for their families. It doesn’t have to be that way!

Discover Your Life Passion Through Action

  If you are at that point in your life where you know there is more to living than the daily routine you have been following for years and you don’t know where to start, just take a deep breath and relax for a minute. Congratulate yourself first for acknowledging the fact that life should be lived fully and not walked through while sleeping. Next, please be patient with yourself and give yourself some time to discover what excites you, what ignites that fire in your heart. You have spent many years pushing your passions aside and so it will take a little time to find them again. How do you find them? Make a conscious effort to try new things in your life. You will find some things you thought you wouldn’t like really don’t resonate well with you once you gave them a go.  As you go through this trial and error process you will find those things that feel right to you, that bring you happiness and satisfaction.

Small Steps Lead To Big Results

  The key is to step out of you comfort zone and try things you normally wouldn’t. This will bring much excitement to your life. Take dance lessons with you wife or partner. Take some music lessons. I recently started playing the guitar and percussion (djembe, bongos, congas) and though I am not very good yet, I get such a rush out of playing them, especially the drums. Check out the internet or local papers for classes, workshops and retreats as this is a great way to give new activities a test run. Just remember that changes don’t happen overnight and if you continue to take small steps forward, you will reach your destination of happiness.

Slawek Polinski

Men Of Action

Your Life Is a Reflection of How You See It

  Have you ever been so certain on an issue in your life where you were convinced it was absolutely true, only to have a different point of view introduced that blew that belief right out of the water? Wouldn’t it be great if you can discover a way to dissolve inner conflicts as well as conflicts with others? How would you feel if you discovered a way to break through your fears and into your personal power to be able to achieve your goals and visions?

  This last weekend I was part of a powerful workshop/retreat with NLP master Terry Hickey where I learned some incredible tools to move my life forward as well as the lives of others around me. I highly recommend anyone who is looking for a huge transformation in their life to contact Terry.

 I believe in sharing personal information when I think it might benefit others and that is why I am including in this post my personal notes from Terry’s first day of his workshop. These notes are on how the information I learned will impact my life. This recording was taken while hiking in Tucson, AZ. and so at times I sound out of breath and there is some wind noise as well.

 Enjoy this audio recording and I welcome all comments.

Slawek Polinski
Men of Action

Don’t Take Life And The People In Your Life For Granted

    Saying “I Love You” means so much to the people in our lives and is never, ever said enough. Life is short, so never pass up an opportunity to let the people in your life know you love them. Take the time TODAY to tell them how much they mean to you. Live every day as if it was your last.Merry  Christmas to all!

Slawek Polinski
Men Of Action

   Start your New Year’s resolution today and enjoy a happier and healthier life. The way you begin your day has an impact on how the rest of your day will go, so start it off on a positive note.