Goal Setting Made Simple

   Do you find yourself falling short of your goals? Here is a story about three 12 year old boys and their determination and creativity in reaching their goal. As adults we often tend to make things more complicated then they have to be while children often can see the simple solutions to their challenges.

Slawek Polinski
Men Of Action

Your Life Is a Reflection of How You See It

  Have you ever been so certain on an issue in your life where you were convinced it was absolutely true, only to have a different point of view introduced that blew that belief right out of the water? Wouldn’t it be great if you can discover a way to dissolve inner conflicts as well as conflicts with others? How would you feel if you discovered a way to break through your fears and into your personal power to be able to achieve your goals and visions?

  This last weekend I was part of a powerful workshop/retreat with NLP master Terry Hickey where I learned some incredible tools to move my life forward as well as the lives of others around me. I highly recommend anyone who is looking for a huge transformation in their life to contact Terry.

 I believe in sharing personal information when I think it might benefit others and that is why I am including in this post my personal notes from Terry’s first day of his workshop. These notes are on how the information I learned will impact my life. This recording was taken while hiking in Tucson, AZ. and so at times I sound out of breath and there is some wind noise as well.

 Enjoy this audio recording and I welcome all comments.

Slawek Polinski
Men of Action

 So What Is The Bottom Line On My Money?

   So after reading the first two parts of this article, we know that:

•  The way we relate to money today has much to do with the way our parents and mentors related to money.
•  In my life there was a lot of guilt surrounding money due to the struggles in my parent’s lives.

   What I will cover in this 3rd and final segment to this article is how my past influenced my relationship with money.

 Where’s My Money? – Show Me The Money!

  Looking back on my younger years, I realize that I never was able to save much money. It seemed, I would spend it just as fast as I made it. That really didn’t concern me too much because I was happy I didn’t have to ask my dad for money any longer, for the things I needed. It was very freeing for me to be able to have my own money – guilt free.

  Years would pass and I got married and a couple years later my wife and I had a son, and a few years after that a beautiful daughter. The funny thing is, as I grew older my money issues stayed the same. I worked hard, made a decent living and yet never managed to save or invest much. I always made sure my children got whatever they wanted because I was not going to subject them to the guilt that I had to go through. No Way!

 What is My Money Mindset Now?

  Even though my wife and I managed to save and invest as we matured in life, I never felt we were doing as well as we should and that always puzzled me, until I took the assessment on money at the seminar I was at. I realized it wasn’t how I valued money, and more to do with how I valued myself. The feelings of guilt I had at that young age, asking my dad for money, transpired to me feeling unworthy to having money and that is why as I grew older, I would spend money as fast as I made it.

 How Do You Change Your Money Mindset?

  The first step to any change is awareness, followed by conscious and persistent action. It is not easy to change years of bad habits and it takes much discipline. I suggest investing in yourself with reading, financial coaching and always be aware where you are financially by having a set routine and system for your finances.

 So take a close look at where you are financially and ask yourself; “am I making as much as I could?’ “Am I saving and investing as much as I could?” Am I charging my clients and customers what I am really worth?” You might find the answers to be more about you than the economy, job market, stock market and other external circumstances.

Slawek Polinski

Men of Action

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What Are Your Money Issues? Part 1 Recap

  In “What Are Your Money Issues? Part 1″ I discussed how we as individuals relate to money and many of our money beliefs and money blocks were formed early in life. This is a common bond the majority of us share.

 In this installment of this article I will share with you my personal story and how it affected me in my relationship with money.

My Story and Money Issue Origins

  The easiest way for me to explain how our relationship with money is influenced by outside sources and circumstances is to give you an insight to my story, my background.

  I was born in Poland in the 1960’s and both my mom and dad  grew up on small farms near each other. They worked very long hours everyday to provide for their families and there was little time for leisure and recreation. They grew and raised everything they needed to survive on their farms and what was left over they sold to earn money for the things they needed. Money was scarce and there wasn’t much left over.

  Neither my mom nor dad made it past the sixth grade and when they were between the ages of 12-14, WWII was raging literally in their back yard. Their families were forced to live in root cellars while the German soldiers turned their homes into headquarters, while consuming everything their farms had to offer. Everything they had was taken away from them in an instant while they were living in fear. When the soldiers left everything they owned was gone or destroyed.

 Our Money Boat Sets Sail

  Let’s fast forward to 1965……

I arrive in the United States with my mom and dad, along with my older brother and two older sisters. Yes, this picture is actually of my family and no, we are not “off the boat.” Actually we were just waiting to get on!

  Many years would pass from that day we arrived and you would hear my dad tell the same story over and over, how he brought his family here with $3.00 to his name and how hard he had to work to make ends meet. Both my mom and dad worked very hard for their money here in the U.S.- working in sweatshops and factories and as we were growing up they made sure they reminded my siblings and me how hard they had to work to support us. As a young boy there was was much guilt associated with asking my mom and dad for money. I knew every time I asked I would hear the same routine over and over such as “money doesn’t grow on trees,” “do you know how hard I had to work for this?” “When are you going to start making some money?” Any of these sound familiar?

 This guilt was a part of my life for many years even after I moved out of my mom and dad’s home and started a family of my own. I remember vowing never to make my children feel any guilt over money and so I did the exact opposite of my mom and dad and gave them everything they wanted. I knew after awhile this might not have been the best approach either, and what surprised me even more was that my issue with money ran deeper than just rebellion against the guilt I felt about money as a child.

  The assessment I took gave me an insight about money I have never been able to see before and in the next and final part of this article I will discuss that and what it means to me.

Slawek Polinski

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Men, It’s Your Health

  The other night my wife and I were watching a program on the television which is something we do not do often and when we do, we watch recorded programs to avoid the commercials. While watching this 2 hour show I saw somewhere in the vicinity of  a half dozen commercials about erectile dysfunction or I believe e.d. is the hip acronym the pharmaceuticals like to refer to it as. The thing that amused me was how quickly they breeze through the side effects. Did you miss them? Let me list them out for you:

• Chest Pain
• Nausea
• Headaches
• Facial Flushing
• Blurred Vision
• Bluish Vision

 Out of the above, the only one that is slightly appealing to me is the bluish vision. Living my life in the land of “smurfs” could be kind of cool. Another side effect is an erection lasting more than four hours and if this should happen I am to call my doctor to avoid permanent injury. Somehow I think if this should happen the phones in my house would mysteriously disappear. Oh, there are two more side effects they breezed through at the end of the commercial as if they were no big deal. In rare cases patients could suffer loss of hearing and vision and should call their doctor immediately if they suffer from these side effects. Let me get this straight, I cannot see or hear and yet I am to find my phone and listen to my doctor’s instructions?

Let’s Get Serious About Your Health

  The purpose of this article is not to poke fun at erectile dysfunction or the men that need to be medicated for it. If they have exhausted all alternatives, I applaud them for taking action for their health and life. That being said, I think in more cases than not, men and women are looking for that magic pill to make everything all better instead of making healthier changes in their life. Let’s look at “ED” and some of it’s major causes:

• High blood pressure
• High Cholesterol
• Depression
• Stress
• Smoking and alcohol
• Heart Disease
• Certain medicines

 Now it is proven that with a change in diet and lifestyle many of these health issues can be corrected and yet many will opt for the possible loss of vision and hearing instead instead making those changes. Why is that?

 Men, Be Responsible For Your Health

  Many men will live with a health issue for some time before seeing a doctor. Sometimes this is because of embarrassment and sometimes a man just doesn’t want to admit his vulnerability to these health issues. He doesn’t want to admit it to others as well as to himself so when he finally sees his doctor and the doctor offers him a prescription, he is quick to accept it and disregard the side effects as long as his current problem goes away.

  One of the causes of erectile dysfunction is also the cause of many of today’s illnesses which is stress. A person can take as many pills as they want and if they don’t reduce the stress in their life other illnesses will surface. It is time to be responsible for yourself and bring more balance into your life. Balance in sleep, nutrition, physical activity, recreation and of course your work. So please when you visit your doctor take in his or her advise on all you can do to increase the health and quality of your life. Take medicine when needed and don’t take it just to cover up the real issue.

*always check with your physician before starting, stopping or changing your prescription.

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